College Acceptance, Rejection, and Decisions, OH MY!

As parents, caregivers and professionals working with teens, the moment we have been waiting for is upon us!  As we stand at the intersection of ambition and opportunity, the college admissions season unfolds, bringing with it a whirlwind of emotions for students eagerly awaiting the fate of their applications. It’s a time marked by anticipation, excitement, and the occasional sting of disappointment. In recognition of the complexities surrounding these pivotal moments, we’d like to share some valuable insights that can serve as a compass for navigating the highs of acceptances, the lows of rejections and the decisions that come as a result.

For any teen and their loved ones, receiving a rejection from their dream college can undoubtedly be disheartening, and it’s completely normal to feel a range of emotions. Teens may question, what was it all for?  I just spent 13 years of my life preparing for this moment to have the dream crushed just as it was within reach.  We want to remind you that this moment does not define your teen’s worth or their future. There are countless paths to success, and sometimes the journey takes unexpected turns.

For every student, this journey is a transformative chapter that extends beyond the confines of a single admission decision. It’s an odyssey of self-discovery, resilience-building, and a testament to the unique tapestry of each individual’s academic and personal narrative. As you navigate this period of reflection, allow yourself to feel and remember to consider all your options.


As we delve into the nuances of this collegiate roller coaster, let’s explore some key ideas that can guide students through the maze of emotions:

1. Celebrating Acceptances:

Embrace the Joy: Beyond the celebratory confetti of an acceptance letter lies a tapestry of hard work and dedication. Take a moment to bask in the glow of this achievement, sharing the news with those who have supported you. This is not just a college acceptance; it’s a recognition of your journey and potential.

2. Handling Rejection:

Allowing Grief: A rejection may feel like a roadblock, but it is merely a detour in the grand adventure of life. Allow your teen the space to grieve, acknowledging the disappointment while realizing that their worth and potential extend far beyond any rejection letter. This setback is a stepping stone to resilience and future successes.

3. Seeking Support:

Connecting with Others: No journey is meant to be walked alone. Reach out to friends, family, and mentors for a supportive embrace. Share your experiences, fears, and triumphs, creating a network that stands with you through every twist and turn. In shared stories, you’ll find strength.

4. Shifting Perspectives:

Broadening the View: The prestige of a college doesn’t define your teen’s journey. In the vast landscape of higher education, unexpected opportunities may arise from rejections, leading to personal and academic growth. Embrace the potential of every path and recognize that success is not confined to a particular institution.

5. Building Resilience:

Learning from Adversity: The college admissions process is more than a series of application submissions; it’s a profound life experience. Embrace setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. Every challenge encountered now lays the foundation for future endeavors, nurturing resilience and fortitude.


As our students embark on this transformative journey, let these insights be a guiding light—a source of wisdom and encouragement. Remember, this is not just a college admissions season; it’s a chapter in the grand narrative of personal and academic growth.

If you or any teen and their family you have contact with need help navigating the difficult decisions about college attendance, our team of amazing therapists who dedicate their career to helping teens and their families is here to help. Don’t hesitate to reach out for extra support in making these difficult decisions, you are not alone and at CTFT we believe that it takes a village and are honored to be a part of your village.  

Call now (408) 628-0532 to schedule an assessment to see if therapy is right for your teen.