Understanding the Risks:

Teenage drinking poses various risks to adolescents’ health, safety, and development. If alcoholism runs in your family, education about this disease is crucial for your teen to truly make an informed decision. Alcohol consumption can impair judgment, increase the likelihood of risky behaviors, and lead to accidents or dangerous situations. Parents should be aware of the potential consequences of underage drinking, including legal issues, alcohol poisoning, impaired decision-making, sexual assault, and decreased academic performance. While it can be frightening to imagine our children in any of these situations, these are potential challenges they may encounter as they grow up and are exposed to new things. It is easier to manage this while they are still living at home than to have them face this for the first time when they are away at college.

Open Communication:

Teen drinking can be a taboo subject and difficult to talk about; however, effective communication is key when discussing the topic of alcohol consumption with teenagers. Parents should create a safe and non-judgmental space for their teen to voice their thoughts, feelings, and concerns about drinking over spring break. Engaging in open dialogue allows parents to understand their teenager’s perspective, clarify expectations, and reinforce the importance of responsible decision-making when it comes to alcohol. It is sometimes necessary to bite your tongue when your teen opens up to you, even if you disagree, because that will allow them to feel safe and heard. Listen first and then use curiosity questions to continue the conversation rather than lecturing or inserting your opinion too soon. This will keep the door open for communication and decrease the likelihood of them drinking behind your back.

Setting Clear Expectations:

When making the decision about how you will respond if your teen expresses an interest in drinking over spring break, you might want to think about the following discussion points. If you decide you want to allow your child to drink, what would your expectations be? Has your teen proven that they are trustworthy? And how will the impact of alcohol affect their ability to meet previously agreed-upon terms? Establishing clear boundaries and expectations around alcohol consumption is essential for guiding teenage behavior over spring break. Parents should communicate their stance on underage drinking, outline consequences for violating rules, and empower their teen to make informed choices. Therefore, setting expectations that prioritize safety, respect, and responsible behavior can help teenagers navigate social situations involving alcohol with mindfulness and caution. As hard as it is, it is far better that they are getting information from their parents rather than social media and peers. Education about safe alcohol consumption needs to be a topic that all parents of teens engage in.

Risk Reduction Strategies:

Consider things that you would want your teen to know about alcohol consumption before they leave for college. The following are some curiosity questions to ask your teen when having this discussion:

– How do you know what your tolerance for alcohol is?

– How can you moderate your drinking?

– What will you do at a party if you don’t drink and your friends are?

– How will you get home safely? Who will be the designated driver?

– What do you think the dangers of underage drinking are?

– How will you protect yourself from making decisions while under the influence that you might regret the next day?

– What about sex? How will you handle it if you find yourself in a situation of possibly engaging in sexual activity?

– What do you know about consent and the difficulty of making a good decision for consent when under the influence?

– What sort of communication should we have when you are out? Will you reach out to me if you need help?

– How trustworthy and responsible do you think your friends are?

– Do you trust your friend group to look out for one another and stop someone from engaging in risky behaviors?

– What will you do if one of you drinks too much?

Modeling Responsible Behavior:

Parents play a pivotal role in modeling responsible attitudes and behaviors around alcohol for their teenager. It is important that, as parents, we show them how to best engage with substances through our own actions. Whether it is demonstrating how to say no or modeling what it looks like to set boundaries with friends, your approach will be noticed by your young kids and your teens. By demonstrating healthy attitudes towards drinking, engaging in open conversations about alcohol, and showcasing responsible decision-making, parents can empower their teen to make informed choices and develop a positive relationship with alcohol that prioritizes safety and well-being.

Moral of the story:

The most important things in the decision of when and how to expose your child to alcohol are communication and trust. If you have these two baseline pillars, you can work out any problem that comes up. The decision of whether to allow a teenager to drink over spring break is a personal and individual choice that should be guided by a consideration of all the various factors. By engaging in thoughtful discussions, setting boundaries that prioritize safety, and fostering a culture of responsibility around alcohol, parents can support their teenager in making informed decisions that promote well-being, safety, and healthy relationships during this period of relaxation and celebration.

While we as therapists cannot make the decision for you, we are more than happy to provide a space for the discussion. It is important that you make an informed decision about what is best for your teen and your family, especially if alcoholism runs in your family. If you are in search of guidance through this decision process, please do not hesitate to reach out. Call (408) 628-0532 to book an appointment today!

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As mental health professionals, it is crucial for us to understand the mechanisms of transgenerational trauma and the ways in which it can manifest in our clients’ lives. By recognizing the patterns of inherited trauma and unpacking the underlying causes, we can help individuals break free from destructive cycles and pave the way for healing and growth.

Individuals who have experienced transgenerational trauma may find themselves trapped in repeating patterns that mirror those of their ancestors, despite their best efforts to move forward. This can create a sense of helplessness and a fear that their children will also be burdened by the pain and suffering of the past.

Transgenerational trauma can have a significant impact on children and teens, affecting their development, behavior, and emotional well-being. Some common symptoms of transgenerational trauma in children and teens include:

1. Behavioral issues: Children and teens may exhibit challenging behaviors such as aggression, defiance, acting out, or withdrawal as a way to cope with the effects of inherited trauma.
2. Emotional dysregulation: Children and teens may struggle to regulate their emotions, experiencing mood swings, heightened anxiety, depression, or feelings of overwhelm in response to triggers related to transgenerational trauma.
3. Difficulty forming attachments: Children and teens affected by transgenerational trauma may have challenges in forming secure attachments with caregivers or peers, leading to difficulties in forming trusting relationships.
4. Academic struggles: Transgenerational trauma can impact children and teens’ ability to focus, concentrate, and perform academically, resulting in challenges at school or difficulties in learning.
5. Physical symptoms: Children and teens may experience physical symptoms such as headaches, stomachaches, sleep disturbances, or other psychosomatic complaints that are linked to the stress and emotional distress of transgenerational trauma.
6. Heightened stress response: Children and teens may exhibit a heightened stress response, reacting strongly to perceived threats or triggers related to the trauma experienced by their ancestors.
7. Self-esteem issues: Transgenerational trauma can impact children’s self-esteem and sense of self-worth, leading to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, or a negative self-image.
8. Avoidance behaviors: Children and teens may engage in avoidance behaviors to cope with feelings of distress or discomfort related to transgenerational trauma, such as avoiding certain topics, situations, or memories.
9. Difficulty regulating impulses: Children and teens may struggle with impulse control, engaging in risky behaviors, substance use, or self-harming behaviors as a way to cope with the effects of inherited trauma.

It is essential for caregivers, educators, and mental health professionals to be aware of the symptoms of transgenerational trauma in children and teens and to provide appropriate support, intervention, and therapy to help them heal and build resilience. Early intervention and trauma-informed care can make a significant difference in the well-being and long-term outcomes of children and teens affected by transgenerational trauma.

In the journey to break the cycle of transgenerational trauma, individuals must first focus on their own healing and personal growth. Through therapy modalities like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) Therapy, the entire family can confront maladaptive belief systems, reshape their self-worth, and begin to unravel the legacy of trauma that has been passed down through generations.

Parents who recognize these patterns within their families play a critical role in breaking the cycle of trauma for future generations. By addressing their own unresolved issues, modeling healthy behaviors, and fostering open communication with their children, parents can empower their families to create a new legacy of strength and resilience.

The journey to healing transgenerational trauma begins with self-awareness and a willingness to challenge ingrained belief systems. As mental health professionals, we have the opportunity to guide individuals towards a path of healing, empowerment, and resilience. Remember, the power to break the cycle of transgenerational trauma lies within each of us.

At Campbell Teen & Family Therapy, we treat the entire family, not just the teens! If you worry that transgenerational trauma has affected you as a parent and your kids, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Our collaborative team of therapists allows us to offer therapy to the entire family.  Parents are in a unique position to help their children heal and any work they do to help themselves will allow them to better support their teens. At CTFT we collaborate with other therapists alternating individual talk therapy with their current therapist and EMDR therapy with an EMDR trained therapist. After all, growth and progress is a group effort!

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We are finally reaching the final stretch of the winter months! You may be feeling the negative effects of the weather changing, and you may be wishing away those gray clouds. If you find yourself experiencing heightened feelings of sadness or anxiety during the darker months, you’re not alone. Welcome to the realm of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a clinically recognized mood disorder that affects many individuals.

Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder: Delving Deeper

Seasonal Affective Disorder, commonly referred to as SAD, transcends mere winter blues, representing a significant disruption in mood triggered by seasonal changes, notably during fall and winter. The reduction in sunlight exposure disrupts our circadian rhythm, often resulting in symptoms of depression and lethargy. While the cold weather may feel “cute and cozy” at first, several months of early sunsets and low temperatures can have a significant toll on our mental well-being. 

Illuminating Solutions: Light Therapy and Vitamin D

For those resonating with the somber atmosphere accompanying seasonal shifts, hope shines bright in the form of light therapy. Utilizing light boxes, readily available online, mimics the effects of natural sunlight and has shown remarkable efficacy in alleviating symptoms associated with SAD. It can also be effective to find a sunlight lamp or alarm clock so that you are awoken by imitation sunlight instead of a blaring cellphone ringtone.

Additionally, it is worthwhile to explore potential underlying factors. Limited exposure to sunlight may contribute to vitamin D deficiencies, which can exacerbate symptoms of SAD. It can be as simple as getting outside during daylight hours and going for a walk or in some cases your doctor might recommend taking a supplement.. Making this a habit will allow you to get in a routine that serves your overall health. Getting sufficient sunlight exposure during the day will also contribute positively to your overall sleep quality, which will likely be beneficial in alleviating feelings of fatigue.

Especially as the sun starts to set a bit later, make sure to get outside for daily nature breaks. You can take a stroll around your neighborhood or just sit on the patio. The most important thing is to get that sunlight exposure during the day. This helps with hormonal regulation and it is crucial for healthy sleep at night. 

You’re Not Alone

Dealing with seasonal depression can feel incredibly isolating, but remember that you are not alone in this. Even when it seems like the world is dimming around you, there are people who care about you and want to support you through this challenging time. It can be tough to find the light in the midst of darkness, but it’s okay to take things one day at a time. You don’t have to tackle everything all at once. Sometimes, just getting through the day is an accomplishment worth celebrating.

Seeking Support for S.A.D.

Recognizing the impact of SAD on mental health underscores the importance of seeking support. Whether confiding in trusted individuals or seeking professional guidance, acknowledging and addressing your mental health needs is a proactive step towards well-being.

Prioritizing mental wellness is paramount. Should seasonal shifts significantly impair daily functioning, seeking professional assistance is crucial. Collaborating with a qualified healthcare provider enables tailored interventions to effectively manage symptoms and improve overall quality of life. Embrace the medical recognition of seasonal influences, explore evidence-based solutions, and proactively seek support. Remember, brighter days lie ahead, and with informed strategies, you can navigate through the darkness towards a brighter and more resilient future.

Should you or your child need support with navigating the changing seasons, please do not hesitate to reach out. Our wonderful team will be more than happy to assist you. Call us at (408)628-0532 or email admin@campbellteenfamilytherapy.com with inquiries.

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For any teen and their loved ones, receiving a rejection from their dream college can undoubtedly be disheartening, and it’s completely normal to feel a range of emotions. Teens may question, what was it all for?  I just spent 13 years of my life preparing for this moment to have the dream crushed just as it was within reach.  We want to remind you that this moment does not define your teen’s worth or their future. There are countless paths to success, and sometimes the journey takes unexpected turns.

For every student, this journey is a transformative chapter that extends beyond the confines of a single admission decision. It’s an odyssey of self-discovery, resilience-building, and a testament to the unique tapestry of each individual’s academic and personal narrative. As you navigate this period of reflection, allow yourself to feel and remember to consider all your options.

As we delve into the nuances of this collegiate roller coaster, let’s explore some key ideas that can guide students through the maze of emotions:

1. Celebrating Acceptances:

Embrace the Joy: Beyond the celebratory confetti of an acceptance letter lies a tapestry of hard work and dedication. Take a moment to bask in the glow of this achievement, sharing the news with those who have supported you. This is not just a college acceptance; it’s a recognition of your journey and potential.

2. Handling Rejection:

Allowing Grief: A rejection may feel like a roadblock, but it is merely a detour in the grand adventure of life. Allow your teen the space to grieve, acknowledging the disappointment while realizing that their worth and potential extend far beyond any rejection letter. This setback is a stepping stone to resilience and future successes.

3. Seeking Support:

Connecting with Others: No journey is meant to be walked alone. Reach out to friends, family, and mentors for a supportive embrace. Share your experiences, fears, and triumphs, creating a network that stands with you through every twist and turn. In shared stories, you’ll find strength.

4. Shifting Perspectives:

Broadening the View: The prestige of a college doesn’t define your teen’s journey. In the vast landscape of higher education, unexpected opportunities may arise from rejections, leading to personal and academic growth. Embrace the potential of every path and recognize that success is not confined to a particular institution.

5. Building Resilience:

Learning from Adversity: The college admissions process is more than a series of application submissions; it’s a profound life experience. Embrace setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. Every challenge encountered now lays the foundation for future endeavors, nurturing resilience and fortitude.

As our students embark on this transformative journey, let these insights be a guiding light—a source of wisdom and encouragement. Remember, this is not just a college admissions season; it’s a chapter in the grand narrative of personal and academic growth.

If you or any teen and their family you have contact with need help navigating the difficult decisions about college attendance, our team of amazing therapists who dedicate their career to helping teens and their families is here to help. Don’t hesitate to reach out for extra support in making these difficult decisions, you are not alone and at CTFT we believe that it takes a village and are honored to be a part of your village.  

Call now (408) 628-0532 to schedule an assessment to see if therapy is right for your teen.

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1. Establish a Nighttime Routine

First up, let’s talk about sleep. We all know it’s important, but do we give it the priority it deserves? Establishing a nighttime routine is more than just hitting the sack early. It’s about creating a ritual that helps your body and mind wind down. Imagine turning off your gadgets an hour before bedtime, maybe sipping some calming herbal tea, and diving into a good book. It’s about signaling to yourself that the day is done, and it’s time to recharge. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much better this one of our 5 game-changing New Year’s Resolutions leaves you feeling the following morning. 

2. Give Back to Your Community

Next on the list is giving back to the community. It’s easy to get caught up in our own lives, but there’s something incredibly fulfilling about making a difference in someone else’s. This could be anything from volunteering at a local shelter to helping out at community events. The beauty of this resolution? You not only contribute to the betterment of your surroundings but also connect with people and perspectives that enrich your own life. To make it even more fun, try inviting a friend or family member to join you in this new resolution. 

3. Embrace Gratitude Daily

Practicing gratitude daily can be a true eye-opener. It’s not about ignoring life’s challenges but acknowledging the good that exists alongside them. Whether it’s being thankful for a sunny day, a supportive friend, or simply the comfort of your home, recognizing these moments can shift your focus and brighten your outlook on life. A great way to stay accountable for this daily practice is to write down what you are thankful for in a journal. If you already journal daily, try adding a list of 3-5 things you are grateful for as a part of it.

4. Make 5 Minutes for Self-Care

Self-care doesn’t have to be time-consuming or extravagant. In fact, just five minutes a day can make a significant difference. This could be a short meditation, a few stretches, or simply enjoying a moment of silence with your morning coffee. It’s about carving out a small pocket of time each day to just be with yourself, for yourself. These 5 minutes can be any time of day, the first 5 minutes of your day, the last or even in the middle of your day when you just need a break. You will be surprised by what this 5 minutes does for your mental health. 

5. Deepen Your Relationships

Finally, let’s talk about deepening relationships as one of our 5 game-changing New Year’s Resolutions. In our fast-paced, technology-based world, it’s easy to lose sight of the importance of real, meaningful connections. This year, why not make a resolution to truly connect with friends and family? This could mean having more in-depth conversations, spending quality time together, or simply being more present and attentive during your interactions. Call your mom and invite her to lunch, make an effort to have coffee with a friend once a month or plan an intentional date night with your spouse.

Campbell Teen and Family Therapy 

In conclusion, these resolutions aren’t about drastic changes or unattainable goals. They’re about enhancing the quality of your everyday life, one small step at a time. For those moments when you need a little extra help, guidance, or someone to talk to, Campbell Teen and Family Therapy is here for you. We’re dedicated to supporting individuals and families on their path to growth and well-being. Here’s to a year of better sleep, community spirit, gratitude, self-care, and meaningful connections, with Campbell Teen and Family Therapy by your side. Contact us here today to start a conversation!

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Teaching your teen to handle their own money is a key move to prepare them for the real world. Still, figuring out the perfect time to kickstart this financial independence journey can be a bit tricky. We’re here to chat about the best ways to support your teen through the process. We will also look at the hows and whens of your teen getting their bill-paying game on.

The Importance of Teaching Financial Responsibility:

Teaching your teenager about financial responsibility is a big deal – it’s like giving them the keys to the adult world! You see, it’s not just about making sure they can pay their bills; it’s about setting them up for success as they grow up. So, let’s dive into why it’s so crucial and how to help your teen start taking charge of their finances.

1. Real-world experience: Paying bills is an integral part of adult life. By starting early, your teenager gains valuable experience in managing their finances.

2. Budgeting skills: Learning to budget effectively is essential for financial stability. Giving your teen control over their expenses helps them develop these skills.

3. Responsibility and accountability: Paying bills teaches teenagers the importance of being accountable for their financial obligations, fostering responsibility.

4. Financial literacy: It enhances their understanding of financial concepts like interest, credit, and debt, enabling them to make informed financial decisions.

When Should Your Teen Start Paying Their Own Bills?:

Let’s talk timing. When should your teenager start paying their own bills? Well, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer here, but generally, it’s a good idea to ease them into it when they’re around 16 to 18 years old. This is usually when they’ve got part-time jobs or some other source of income, and they’re getting ready to spread their wings.

You don’t want to overwhelm them, so start with manageable expenses like their phone bill, a share of their car insurance, or some school-related costs. As they get the hang of it, you can gradually add more financial responsibilities to their plate.

Now, let’s delve into how to help your teen start paying their own bills.

How to Help Your Teen Start Paying Their Own Bills:

Now, let’s get practical. How can you help your teen take those first steps towards financial independence?

1. Open a Bank Account: If they don’t already have one, help them set up a bank account in their name. Show them the ropes of online banking and how to read those bank statements.

       2. Create a Budget: Sit down together and work out a budget. It’s like a roadmap for their money,                      showing where it comes from, where it goes, and how much they can allocate to bills.

3. Choose the Right Bills: Start small and pick bills that match their income and level of responsibility. Think phone bill or a piece of their car insurance.

4. Set up Automatic Payments: Show them how to set up automatic bill payments from their bank account. That way, they won’t forget or miss any payments.

5. Keep an Eye on Progress: In the beginning, keep a close eye on how they’re handling their financial responsibilities. As they become more confident, give them some space to manage things on their own.

6. Talk Money: Encourage open conversations about money. Let them share their financial goals, challenges, and worries. It’s all part of the learning process.

7. Save, Save, Save: Teach them the importance of saving by helping them open a savings account and regularly contribute to it.

8. Guide, Don’t Control: While you want to support them, avoid being a financial helicopter parent. Let them make mistakes and learn from them – it’s a crucial part of growing up.

The Bigger Picture with Campbell Teen and Family Therapy

Teaching your teen about finances is not just about dollars and cents; it’s about preparing them for adulthood. But remember, it’s not just about the money; it’s also about their emotional well-being and your family dynamics.

That’s where Campbell Teen and Family Therapy comes in. We specialize in helping teenagers and families navigate the tricky waters of adolescence, including the transition to financial independence. By combining financial education with emotional support from professionals like those at Campbell Teen and Family Therapy, you’re setting your teen up for success. Contact Campbell Teen and Family Therapy here today to start a conversation, we are here with open arms and open ears for you and your teen. 

So, as you guide your teen into the world of financial responsibility, remember it’s not just about paying bills; it’s about empowering them with the knowledge and skills they need to handle their finances wisely and tackle the challenges of adulthood head-on. Here’s to raising financially responsible, emotionally resilient young adults! 

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Understanding Holiday Triggers

Holiday triggers can manifest in various forms, stemming from a combination of personal, social, and cultural factors. Identifying these triggers is the first step towards managing them effectively. Some common holiday triggers include family dynamics, financial pressures, unrealistic expectations, and memories of past disappointments or losses. Acknowledging that these triggers exist and being mindful of their potential impact is essential for proactively addressing them.

Recognizing Family Dynamics

One prevalent source of holiday triggers is family dynamics. While spending time with loved ones can be fulfilling, it can also bring about tensions and conflicts. These conflicts especially arise when expectations don’t align. Recognize the potential for disagreements or unresolved issues and be prepared to navigate them with open communication. Establishing boundaries and setting realistic expectations can help mitigate the impact of family-related triggers during the holiday season.

Addressing Financial Pressures 

Financial strain is another common holiday trigger that can cast a shadow over the festive season. The pressure to buy gifts, host gatherings, and partake in various activities can lead to stress and anxiety. To cope with this trigger, create a realistic budget and stick to it. Consider alternatives like homemade gifts or experiences that don’t involve significant expenditures. Communicate openly with friends and family about financial constraints to reduce the burden and foster a more understanding environment.

Managing Unrealistic Expectations

The holiday season often comes with a set of societal expectations, from picture-perfect decorations to harmonious family gatherings. Unrealistic expectations can set the stage for disappointment and stress. Recognize that perfection is unattainable, and instead, focus on creating meaningful and realistic experiences. Embrace imperfections and prioritize what truly matters to you, rather than succumbing to external pressures.

Acknowledging Past Disappointments or Losses

For many, the holiday season serves as a reminder of past disappointments or losses, amplifying feelings of grief or loneliness. Recognize the validity of these emotions and allow yourself to grieve if needed. Consider creating new traditions or finding ways to honor and remember loved ones who are no longer present. Seeking support from friends, family, or professional counselors can provide a valuable outlet for processing these emotions.

Coping Strategies 

Once holiday triggers are recognized, it’s crucial to implement coping strategies to navigate them successfully. These strategies can include:

1. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care by maintaining healthy routines, getting enough sleep, and incorporating activities that bring joy and relaxation.

2. Open Communication: Foster open communication with friends and family. Express your needs, set boundaries, and share your feelings to create a supportive and understanding environment.

3. Flexibility: Be flexible and adaptable in your approach to the holidays. Embrace the unpredictability of the season and focus on the positive aspects rather than fixating on things that didn’t go as planned.

4. Mindfulness and Reflection: Practice mindfulness to stay present in the moment and reflect on the true meaning of the holidays for you. This can help shift your focus away from triggers and towards gratitude and appreciation.

Campbell Teen and Family Therapy

As we embark on the holiday season, you are armed with strategies to recognize and cope with holiday triggers. It’s essential to remember that seeking professional support can be a valuable asset. Organizations like Campbell Teen and Family Therapy are dedicated to providing guidance in navigating the complexities of family dynamics. Furthermore they help with emotional challenges, and stressors that may arise during this time. By incorporating the principles of self-care, open communication, flexibility, and mindfulness professionals like those at Campbell Teen and Family Therapy help you recognize and cope with holiday triggers. Furthermore, Campbell Teen and Family Therapy can assist  individuals to foster a holiday experience that is joyous and emotionally enriching. As we celebrate the season, let us prioritize mental well-being and remember that help is readily available for those who may need it. Contact Campbell Teen and Family Therapy to better recognize and cope with holiday triggers.  

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Ingrid Higgins here, the brains and heart behind Campbell Teen and Family Therapy. Today, I’m letting you in on a little secret – a quirky yet seriously effective trick for taming anxiety. And guess what? It involves bubbles!

Now, if you’ve dipped your toes into the therapy pool, you’ve probably been nudged to try out those classic breathing exercises. You know, the deep belly-breathing kind. They’re fantastic, no doubt. They’re like a secret weapon that helps regulate your system and clears the mental fog when emotions are running wild. But, here’s the catch – they don’t always play nice, especially with our pals, Anxiety and Overthinking.

Ever notice how some folks, when told to take a deep breath, end up feeling even more wound up? It’s like, “Thanks for pointing out the tightness in my chest; now it’s all I can think about!” Been there. So, let me introduce you to my absolute favorite anxiety-buster – bubbles! Yep. I keep a trusty bottle of bubbles by my side because blowing bubbles is where the magic happens.

Picture this: instead of the usual therapist drill of “focus on your breath,” we switch things up and blow bubbles together. It’s like a mini celebration of fun and calmness rolled into one. Sometimes, I’ll throw in a challenge, like catching the bubbles or marveling at the colors.

What I love about this bubble-blowing technique is that it’s not just for kids. It works wonders for clients of all ages. It takes the pressure off the whole ‘breathing exercise’ thing and turns it into a playful, enjoyable experience.

So, if you’re battling anxiety and those traditional breathing exercises are leaving you feeling more frazzled than zen, why not give bubble blowing a shot? It’s like a breath of fresh air for your mind – a little moment of joy that might just do the trick. Remember, therapy doesn’t always have to be about serious faces and deep discussions. Sometimes, all you need is a bit of bubble magic to make things brighter. Trust me on this one!

Watch the full video above to hear me talk through how and when the bubble blowing technique can be effective for anxiety and panic control!

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1. Financial Literacy:

Financial literacy forms the cornerstone of independence in these 10 life skills your teen needs before being on their own. Teach your teen how to create a comprehensive budget that includes income, expenses, savings, and discretionary spending. Equip them with an understanding of banking, ensuring they are familiar with tasks such as opening accounts, managing transactions, and comprehending interest rates. These skills are crucial for making informed and responsible financial decisions.

2. Cooking and Nutrition:

Basic cooking skills are fundamental to a healthy and independent lifestyle. Encourage your teen to explore the culinary world by teaching them how to prepare nutritious meals. Guide them in meal planning, making grocery lists, and understanding the importance of a balanced diet. This not only fosters independence but also sets the stage for a lifelong appreciation of healthy living.

3. Time Management:

The ability to manage time effectively is a skill that will serve your teen well throughout their life. Assist them in setting priorities, balancing commitments, and creating schedules. Learning how to manage time efficiently is key to success in academics, work, and personal life.

4. Communication Skills:

Effective communication is a powerful tool in personal and professional realms. Foster your teen’s ability to express themselves clearly and respectfully. Additionally, introduce them to professional communication, including resume writing, job interviews, and networking etiquette. These skills are vital for building relationships and succeeding in the professional world.

5. Critical Thinking:

Critical thinking is the bedrock of informed decision-making. Encourage your teen to approach challenges with a problem-solving mindset. Teach them how to analyze situations critically, break down problems into manageable steps, and make well-informed decisions by evaluating alternatives and considering consequences.

6. Self-Care and Well-Being:

Emphasize the importance of emotional well-being and self-care. Guide your teen in understanding and managing their emotions effectively. Instill healthy habits, including regular exercise, sufficient sleep, and a holistic approach to wellness. A foundation of emotional intelligence and self-care is essential for navigating life’s ups and downs.

7. Household Maintenance:

Basic household maintenance skills contribute significantly to independence. Ensure your teen is capable of handling common issues, from fixing a leaky faucet to troubleshooting minor problems. Proficiency in these skills not only builds confidence but also ensures they can manage their living space effectively.

8. Technological Competence:

In today’s digital age, technological proficiency is non-negotiable. Educate your teen on online safety, responsible social media use, and the ability to discern credible information from misinformation. Ensure they are comfortable with basic computer skills and can troubleshoot common technical issues. These skills are crucial for both personal and professional life.

9. Transportation Skills:

Transportation skills is one of the most important of these 10 life skills your teen needs before being on their own when it comes to their safety. Whether driving or using public transportation, transportation skills are key to independence. Provide your teen with driving lessons if applicable, and ensure they understand the basics of vehicle maintenance. Teach them how to navigate public transportation systems, fostering the ability to move around confidently.

10. Interpersonal Skills:

Social acumen is vital for success in various aspects of life. Foster teamwork skills by encouraging collaboration and effective communication within groups. Additionally, teach your teen networking skills to build and maintain positive relationships with peers, mentors, and professionals. These interpersonal skills are indispensable for personal and professional growth.

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As your teen stands on the brink of independence, these 10 life skills serve as the foundational tools for their journey into adulthood. Beyond academic achievements, it is the practical knowledge of financial literacy, cooking, time management, communication, critical thinking, self-care, household maintenance, technological competence, transportation skills, and interpersonal skills that will empower them to thrive independently.

At Campbell Teen & Family Therapy, Inc. we are experts in helping teens and their families! With our specialty on adolescents, we are competent at not just helping your teen with the difficult challenges they face, but also with helping parents know what to do, when to back off, when to draw the line and to just know they aren’t alone. If you think your teen may need some help in transitioning into adulthood, call now (408) 628-0532 or visit our site to schedule an assessment to see if therapy is right for your teen, we are happy to help and believe that raising a teen takes a village! 

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In our years of practice, the question has come up often from parents and teens, can a teen have borderline personality disorder (BPD)?   In my experience I have had several teens who have looked up the criteria for BPD and self-diagnosed.  I always take them seriously and go through what they found out with them to see if this diagnosis fits, knowing that a teen has to be 18 years old to receive a diagnosis of BPD.  This leaves to question, can the symptoms start prior to the age of 18?  Is there a way to prevent BPD from forming?

As these questions were formulating in my head, I found out that one of my friends and colleagues, Jennifer Costanza, had just written a book on BPD!  So we sat down together to discuss her recently published book titled “Finding Solid Ground.” The conversation delves into the essence of the book, its target audience, the common misconceptions surrounding BPD, and the importance of compassion and empathy in understanding and treating this complex disorder.  I thought this resource could be helpful to the families we treat at Campbell Teen & Family Therapy, Inc.  who maybe be wondering if their teen has the disorder, or affected by a family member who has the diagnosis.

Following is a summary of our interview and you can watch the YouTube video to see the entire interview.  My goal is to help parents and teens understand what it means to be BPD and to have some resources from a trusted source!

Overview of “Finding Solid Ground”

Jennifer explains that the book is tailored for both individuals with BPD and their loved ones. Costanza describes BPD as an aspect of a person’s personality, often misunderstood due to the surrounding stigma. BPD entails emotional dysregulation, making relationships challenging, with a prevalent fear of abandonment or rejection. The book aims to enhance understanding of the disorder, offering practical tools and guidance for seeking treatment, support, and encouragement amidst the challenges associated with BPD.

Can Teens be Diagnosed with BPD?

Costanza addresses the possibility of diagnosing BPD in teens, suggesting that a formal diagnosis typically occurs after the age of 18. However, she acknowledges that teenagers may still grapple with symptoms, emphasizing the importance of distinguishing between normal teenage mood swings and a formal personality disorder diagnosis.

Common Misconceptions about BPD

The interview touches on the misconceptions surrounding BPD, one being the belief that it is untreatable. Costanza counters this notion, highlighting therapeutic modalities such as Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) as effective approaches to managing BPD.

The Inspiration Behind the Book

Costanza shares her motivation for writing the book, expressing a desire to debunk the stigma associated with BPD. She emphasizes the importance of approaching the topic with compassion and empathy, recognizing the deep emotional struggles that individuals with BPD often face, rooted in trauma.

Future Projects

Looking ahead, Costanza discusses her upcoming book on the fear of failure, acknowledging the pervasive pressure, especially among teenagers in high-stakes environments. She hopes that this new project will resonate with those grappling with the fear of failure and inspire them to overcome it.

“Finding Solid Ground” emerges as a resourceful guide not only for those directly affected by BPD but also for their parents, children, partners, co-workers, and anyone seeking to better understand and support individuals navigating this complex disorder.

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